I cannot get him qualified for Medicaid because he was on mortgage docs with a sibling a few years ago (inside the look back window). Dad is being penalized, it looks as if he gifted the house. He was forced out because of a dispute. So, I relocated him here NC-central. How do you find memory care options? He only has Medicare. Safety first: He has dementia so WHERE do you CALL? We are paying for his memory care, but I sold everything I could, to keep him there a few months... then what? HELP! I am in CRISIS MODE!
Do think to check out Board and Care in your area. They are often more affordable, and may accept patients who would not qualify for ALF and can't afford MC.
Option is likely a nursing home, but even that without funds and without Medicaid isn't going to work well. You definitely need an elder law attorney in your area to straighten out the financial end of things; I think you are then looking at a nursing home for care.
An atty should be able to help with this and if you've not already consulted with one, now is the time.
Your Dad has gifted a home.
If this was FORCED upon him as you indicate, then that is elder fraud, so it is time to see an attorney.
Unless YOU are the one the home was gifted to, it is poor decision making to use your own funds to pay for your father. That means you yourself will not have funds for your own old age, and you can see already the cost of it.
See an attorney. I wish you luck, but this awful situation can only meanwhile serve as a warning to others. I am so sorry for you, and for this.
so other people are right. Talk to an elder care lawyer right away but also reach out to your state’s elderly resources because each state is different.
so Sorry you are going through this. I had to sell my moms home and am using that money to pay for MC but she will likely outlive her $ and I still don’t have answers here in Florida.
Some new info for me, if you go into a Mortgage with someone, make sure your on the deed. Medicaid should not question if you are part owner.
Talk to an Elder Care Attorney.
And there is a possibility if he is a Veteran there VA may be of some help. And if he is a Veteran where and when he served will be important as will ANY and ALL other medical conditions he may have.
If he is a Veteran contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission or your States Office of Veterans Affairs.
Unless you signed documents at the memory care agreeing that you would pay for his monthly care bill there, you're not resppnsible for that. The nursing home I put my parent in tried to pull the same thing with me because I had POA. I laughed in their faces and told them they weren't getting one penny more than they were owed. When there was no more to pay them with, the tried to come after me to cash pay. At that time I told them good luck with that. In my case Medicare and private insurance paid in full the amount of what an eight-month stay cost. Only they paid that in eight weeks. My parent was only there for just over six months. So the nursing home was owed nothing. They had to refund the rest that Medicare and the secondary insurance paid out because they overpaid.
Stop paying immediately. They can't and won't kick him out. Let the memory care facility chase down their money from your sibling who your father gifted a house to.
If you did sign documents agreeing that you'd be responsible personally for the cost, you can fight that.
The memory care had you sign documents under duress that you didn't understand and they lied about what they were. They told you they were admission forms to the memory care. This is the scam these places pull. You can fight this.
In the meantime don't pay them another dime. Then go and have a consultation with a lawyer. You can fight this, and you will win.