I Moved here from Calif., to Sharonvlle Ohio. My husband, and family are in Calif. My Mother is a hand full. So resistant, won't listen to me. My Brother takes me to Grocery store, and fixes things. And she listens and talks with my Brother and Husband. But I need a girl friend to go to Hobby Lobby, Mall, Lunch. Just a few hours a week. I haven't bought a car. Because everything isn't settled about what we can do about Mom. Put her in Assisted living here or take her to Calif. With me.We've had a few arguments. But resolve them and Laugh about them later. We've worked through some issues. I think if I could get out a few hours a week. I would have less stress and more patience. Is there anyone interested?
One thing to do before you head back home is to get POA's and other legal documents in place. Think seriously about whether you really want to move her to sunny California. If you do, I would make sure she is far enough away from you to make it a chore to check in on her.
Check local businesses for craft classes, book clubs, etc that you would be interested in doing. Are there women's groups at a local church where you could meet people?
The Alzheimers Association has support groups for caregivers, and area assisted living facilities or adult day care may have their own. This is a good place to start as there are many caregivers here that have been through what you are just beginning to become familiar with.
http://m.alz.org/find-your-local-chapter.asp#SearchStart