My has had dementia for a little while. She's 79. She moved at assisted living about 5 years ago. Just recently, her peripheral neuropathy has caused her a lot of pain and she has sacroilitis. Due to the pain, her strength has decreased. She was staying with me until we could get her into a pain mgmt dr who diagnosed the sacroilitis. She was started on Lyrica a month ago and it's helped. She had some mild confusion here at my house but now that she's in the nursing home, she's very angry at is and wants to go home. I don't blame her. This is to be temporary until they give her the cortisone shot and she gets stronger.
I feel so guilty. We had a BD party yesterday and She came but didn't want to leave.
I'm scheduled to go to Ireland June 4 and her shot is scheduled for June 5. I'm wondering if I should wait. I'm the oldest and have two sisters who are great and supportive. It just keeps ringing I my ears from years ago, you're going to put me in s home and not come back.
I love her so much. The dr said she had mixed dementia.
Are you moving to Ireland, or is this a visit? How long will you be gone? Here is the thing -- dementia gets worse. It is what it does, by definition. So there may be no time in the future what would be better than now. If you are thinking of moving, maybe putting it off a bit until Mom's situation stabilizes and everyone knows where she will be if/when she regains some strength. But if this is a visit, going off while she is being taken care of in a care center might be good timing. You can come back in time to help with the next step.