Thank God that my Mom doesn't have any. She has a very rich son that supports her. Her home is in his name. His HOUSE, our home.He bought it for her and has been paying all her bills for many years. She always says she is happy she has nothing to fight over.
My Fathers wealthy aunt passed SIX years ago (on her 99th birthday) and my sister has caused SO much DRAMA and hard feelings over it for all this time. ( Its still is in litigation)
I don't get it. Take what you are given. It's MONEY! Is it worth more than the respect of your mother and siblings? I had lived out of state for over 30 yrs when her will was made. I THANK GOD she forgot me.
The last time I saw her I was in my forties and looking every day of them. I walked up to her after having not seen her in at least 25 yrs and she said " Boni! You are still so PRETTY!"
THAT was worth way more than a million dollars, any day.
I'm with you, Boni. I never had much money so it's never really been an issue but here and there over the last year or so since my dad died we've had some pretty hefty tax refunds for him and my brother and I just split it 50/50. No muss, no fuss.
I guess if there's a lot of money involved it's different, greed could rear its ugly head, but fighting over who gets what and why seems like such a waste of time to me. I can't imagine my brother and I doing that but they say money changes people so who knows? Any money that comes my way that I didn't count on is a blessing.
It's a really long story, but I am so over the drama that stresses Mom so much. I am the one that has to handle Mom. These are her last years. She really doesn't need this s***.
I'm starting to think sister is suffering some mental illness. She lies, manipulates and tries to put wedges between the rest of us so we don't compare notes.
Thanks for listening ladies. I needed a vent.
He has been so generous to all of us, through the years. No we don't have multiple vacation homes, range rovers, Ferraris or yachts like he does but we have unlimited access, if we are so inclined.. If we ever really needed something , all we would need to do is ask.
He did NOT win the lottery, he worked his BUTT off for it all. Not to mention, if it was not for him MOM would be destitute and the rest of us would have to help her financially.
We, me and both brothers, have a lot of other issues with this sister. Almost all of them boil down to jealousy of one thing or another.
Sorry to droll on about a trivial thing, but its about the unnecessary stress for Me and Mom. We have enough on our plate.
PLEASE don't take this as bragging, in ANY way! I personally don't have a pot to piss in. I am proud of him and appreciate what he does for me and Mom, but NO amount of money can make Mom whole again. A trillion dollars can't keep her alive longer.
I should have gone to the whine forum, but i thought this was going to be a quick vent. Obviously I am allowing her to get to me and I'm going to stop that right now!
Again, thanks for listening.
Horrible atmosphere all this creates, toxic for your poor mother. Any chance of mediation???
None of us want mediation. We just want here to leave us, the hell, alone.
I am really starting to think she has severe mental issues.
My significant other is like your brother, worked hard all his life, and is now living comfortably. But his daughter thinks he is her personal ATM, and that he has to share his money with her. In fact she told me that it is the parent's responsibly to financial help out their children. Say what? Think not.
Boni, it's not only money that causes greed. Even the parent's house/land can cause greed.
So sorry you are experiencing this.
With that being said, there are a lot of much bigger problems on this board so you ladies ( and Bob) with all the wisdom who know just what to say to lighten the load.....KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! I don't have the wisdom, but I will try to make y'all feel supported and hopefully make you laugh once in a while. Love you guys.
Sounds like bro has used his money in a kind and loving way. Beautiful example.
As for your sister, envy and karma are b---s and they always get you.
You are a kind and loving person and have a good brother, focus on that.
" meh "
thats isnt just brit slang , its an attitude that can keep ya calm thru about anything ..
charles ; bla bla -- a*****e -- bla bla , break your legs , etc .
me ; YaAAWWN ..
It would be lovely to have siblings that are kind and helpful. Those that aren't need to just stay as far away as possible so not to cause any more stress/problems than you have on your hands already. I think they just like drama no matter what. Your brother sounds awesome and bless him for being so generous to mom and you! That is what real family should be like. Not just finances either, I mean the support!!
Let us know how you are doing today :)
luv ya gf !
How is Mom? UTI better? I was concerned when you didn't pop on yesterday. luv you too!