My mother is 77, not yet seriously ill - she has arrhythmia and is beginning to slow down but still able to do yoga, play tennis etc. She is preparing to downsize. This is proving very stressful for her, and because she feels that I should be "there" she resists any efforts I make to provide help from a distance while behaving as if she is completely overwhelmed, the world is coming to an end and I am useless ...
I have invited to set her up in her own apartment where I live and made suggestions for people who could help her get things sorted but she blocks everything I suggest. If I pursue this issue, she accuses me of bullying her. What annoys me is, that she does have relatives to help her, and when I ask them how she is, they report that she's fine. They're trustworthy, and I suspect this is an "act" to make me feel guilty. It wouldn't be the first time it's happened. When my Dad - her ex-husband - was dying of cancer, she insisted I visit her in Florida or Maryland, when I flew over in an emergency - of which there were several. I was unable to and she still holds this against me. Oh ... we just don't get along, but I don't want her to end up sticking her head in the sand, failing to plan well, and ending up running around like nut trying to tie everything up from 3000 miles away if something goes wrong ... any ideas. Thanks. AnxietyAbroad
Carol
She won't like it, but I'll have to do it. I will also take your advice as far as setting up a service for her, and when she doesn't take it, because she won't ... I'll say, well, it's your choice. Thanks very much for your time, help and support, tt
Carol