He is a realist, and knows that my mother rarely listens to him. Although respectful and concerned, he does tell her like it is. How do I listen to her criticism of him (he's "rude," "a jackass", etc.) and respond to it? She wants to blame him for her problems, all of which stem from bad judgement on her part.
Ok, on the other side. Maybe your mom really doesn't like this doctor, unless she has the same attitude about all doctors. On a whole, I have never met a doctor I liked. Some are more tolerable than others, but the ones I've seen are arrogant, condescending, never take genetics into consideration, push medication as a cure all, rude and yes, jackasses. The one I'm seeing now is in the tolerable category, but I let her know up front, I'm a free thinker and I research ALL medications before I will take them.
If your mom is overall cranky, then ignore it. She has the right to her opinion, but it kinda sounds like she is pushing your buttons to get a reaction.