She hates me and blames me for her divorce. I was only 12 said I should have never opened the house door to my dad. She was having an affair. Never did anything to her, she doesn't want anything to do with me, only my sister. I am 67 now. I called her to wish her a mothers day, all she does is scream tell me never call. She will face this when she dies . Even called one time she was in the hospital told me never to call her. What kind of mother is she? Awful.
My dad is the kind of person who would do something bad then get mad at you for catching him. That is one of the (many) things I also really dislike about that man who is living in the white house. Your mom sounds narcissistic too. Was your dad a good dad?
I am sorry for your moms reaction to you when you contact her. It sounds like she has a mental disorder that is perhaps life long?
Does she live alone? Is she in good health? Does your sibling keep you informed? I'm sure you love your mom and it is a heavy load to carry with her being so hostile. She is a very old woman by now and a long time since you were 12. Maybe it's time to get therapy to help let go of your desire to connect with her. It doesn't sound as if she has dealt with her feelings at all. I wonder if you were to see her in person if she would be so harsh? Many people are more harsh over the phone but in person more reasonable. My grandmother had a sister that held a lifelong grudge. It was also over a man. My grandfather. My GM was born in 1900. Her sister was born in 1914. My grandmother died in 1990. The sister is still living and still a grudge holder. Some people never change. Get help now with your feelings as they affect not only you but others in your life.
What kind of mother is this? Well, I think your description is pretty accurate -- "awful."
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