Mom passed away a year and a half ago. Husband and I moved in to take care of her. Dad only has blood pressure problems that is controlled by medication. Dad did not do anything to take care of mom, we did it. Dad was very jealous. Now we are stuck here with him. His hygiene is horrible, he is nasty, and wants us to take care of him like we did mom but........he is not dying. He plays games with us all the time that is he sick and dying. Been to the hospital and they say nothing is wrong. It has gotten to the point that we stay away from him and even told him we all need to go our own ways. He whines. Well, now, work called and said they had to call an ambulance because he thinks he is having a heart attack-he has been drinking cough syrup for a "Sore throat" for the last three days; however, his chain smoking does not appear to hurt his throat. Can a social worker at the hospital help him find an assisted living home? What do I do? He is slowly killing me and I feel as if I am going crazy.
Issues to fake being ill and is wasting the hospital staff's time for patients who are ill, taxpayers money, his coworkers time, and our time. Once he returns home, he is going to be there alone as my husband and I have decided to leave. I can no longer tolerate his behavior. Then he is going to really be a danger to himself because he will be by himself, won't pay his bills, and will eventually lose his home.
Sounds like your Dad is doing things just to get attention... bad behavior gets a higher level of attention then doing good things. Find some good stuff that he does, a praise him on that. It's like dealing with a troublesome teenager.
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