I guess I allowed the constant negativity on this site to snap my head last night. A weak moment on my part . caring for half crazy elders is enough to kill a person , then add in the family dysfunction and its no wonder that most people come here to vent . i empathize with everyone . i only suggest that after a good vent try to find at least a scrap of humor in the situation . i personally can only take so much negativity . im not apologising to anyone . im saying you can cross a line between sharing your pain with others and just simply abusing them with your unchecked despair . i normally only comment if i can be helpful , detract from someones pain , or find some kind of wry humor to lighten their load .
i enjoy this site for the intellectual banter , shared wisdom and humor wherever we can find it . i have no plans of leaving the group .
my 90 yr old aunt whos well aware that she hasnt long to live can still shake her bony little fist at me and find something amusing to say every day of her life . maybe we could all learn from that ..
i think ill go see her , we calm each other ..
Or the trolls do this - that's another issue entirely.
I certainly get negative and frustrated myself. I understand that. What I don't understand (or perhaps I really do) is why no effort is made to try to change attitudes.
The people we care for aren't likely to change, only we can change our attitudes in dealing with the complexities and challenges. But I think some people just like to wallow in misery. There I've said it. Now I'm going to put cyberbarriers for all the stones that likely will be thrown at me.
I will tend to read those that inject humor tho.....I see things pretty twisted at times.... and have a laugh all by myself...sometimes I post it...if it makes someone else laugh, good....
I feel that sometimes, our own control issues come out when we are trying to 'edit' someone.... who cares !!!! let 'em rant.... no one HAS to read anything here....Just as some don't read me, I don't read some...... it's an open forum....
And Cap, anytime you have 'put it out there', it was always your own truth.... just saying things in your own way that many are thinking and won't say...
So with all this being said.... I read who and when I want... for the reasons that apply for me at the time..... but there are some that I follow, simply because of the honesty..... life ain't fair...... so what..... and usually if someone hurts my feelings( which doesn't happen here, pissed off maybe, but not hurt) they are just telling me their truth... I take what I need and leave the rest.
It's amazing what can be done with assistive devices. I think maybe I'll get one of those grabber things and pinch the politicians when they start coming around in October...or maybe before. They literally drive me mad!
And some people do like to wallow in their misery and post the same tired rants over and over. The first few times, I'd try to offer suggestions until I learned who they are. Now I just avoid their posts. There are always new people who will listen and offer advice (that will be ignored in kind, LOL). Humans are a funny bunch.
The end..
omg I am SO turning the page :)