Peter, a gentleman(?) I fell in love with over 2 years ago, has become impossibly self-centered and vicious. He has so many ills that I find I can't list them all here. Brain wasting is one. ADHD is another. Diabetes. Obesity. Social Anxiety Disorder. Non Rem or REM sleep disorder. (he has attacked me physically in his sleep-to the point where I have had to fight back to save my sorry skin.) He has been loving and caring in the past, but has changed into a 300 lb. 58 year old toddler. Everything that goes wrong in "my fault." he refuses to even take responsibility for his actions. the verbal abuse is beyond the pale. I am no longer in love, nor do I even "love" him any longer. It's just a question of who outlives whom now for me. Yesterday he did nothing but self-diagnose online all day and come running to me every 5 minutes with this "information." Hypochondria ruled the day. I had just had oral surgery-wisdom tooth-and was in no mood to deal. Nor did I have the wish to leave my own house. (yes he is living with me. Yes I am footing all the bills.) I am an idiot and I am ready to kill-either him or myself. I won't but still...self-centered, irresponsible, forgetful, easily agitated if he doesn't get "his way" I am at an end. I swear. The only shrink I have been to around here has not been helpful. She basically said that all this is my fault. cannot and will not see another one. can't afford it. Help.
I have been there. It took a 357 magnum to get the one I had to take me seriously. I had had enough and he was not going to say no he wan't going anywhere again. Just tell the police he hits you in his sleep and you are scared, but you need to get a few police reports under your belt so there is an awareness there is a problem. Next time he acts like an ass, call the polic and tell them he scares you. Everything ads up. Its time he move on. And don't fall for the oh poor me stuff he will throw at you. Whats happening to you IS your fault as long as you allow it. Whats happening to him is HIS fault, and you need to take care of you.