I have been caring for my dad for the past couple of years. It is now my "job" so I have been told. I don't have any money of my own, but my rent and bills are covered by my Dad for caring for him. Well, I have 5 brothers and sisters who are just too busy to give me time off, exept for one of my sisters. She visits often and really helps out, but I am still here when she does. She says I can take off, but where am I supposed to go without any extra cash. I have a brother who lives in town, but he works 6 days a week. There are 3 other people in their house but no one can help. The others brothers and sisters come to visit my Dad often but no one offers to help. I do have it pretty easy though because my 90 yr old father can still get around a little. He can eat and use the bathroom hinself but barely. When I talk of having a break, they all have quick answers. The only time I can go anywhere is when I go grocery shopping, the doctors, or for an hour or two, but this is only on a month or 2 basis. Sometimes I regret my dad, and sometimes I want to just leave when my other siblings vist, but like I said, I have no money of my own. I am so sick of staring at these walls! Help!
You (sosickofit) are only 45, and your dad is 90. When he dies, you will still be way too young for Medicare or social security. What then? My suggestion to you is to get a part time job and find your way back into the paid labor force. You need your own income now, and you will clearly need it even more once Dad is no longer paying the bills. Unless Dad is planning on leaving you a fortune. If he has a fortune to leave you, he should be paying you a wage now and you would have money to take a nice vacation.