Since I moved back home 18 yrs ago I've been the main person to my mom.Errands painting ,what ever she wanted .I was divorced not much going on in my life .I have two siblings brother helps when he can sister not so much.Mom has End stage COPD on oxygen 24/7 .I m going to be 60 in a few months. I met and fell in love this past year. It happened kinda of fast in my families eyes I couldn't be happier.We want to move south warmer weather easier on my RA .Well the are freaking out saying I'm abandoning our Mom.One day's drive away they can do more.I just want to be happy I'm not so young either .Am I a horrible daughter????
Congrats on your new life!
What motivated your family to have concerns about the new relationship? Are there any red flags, such as moving too fast without really knowing the person? Or the person has early on convinced you to leave the area where you may get some support? Is the person self-supporting, or are you? By taking an honest look now, you can protect yourself from a possible mistake that is not so easy to bounce back from at age 60.
By all means, be happy! Not all whirlwind romances fail. Wishing you happiness!
It is your life, enjoy it! If anyone has already done their time in caregiving and needs to be released for any reason, they have every right to live their life.
AC has a saying that I appreciate: " It is not our responsibilty to care for our parents, but it is to see that they are cared for".
Does this help?
Hey, why don't fire and police stations have "Safe Havens" for our elderly? So, many of would resort to that when all else fails.
It is your turn now. You will still oversee her care, delegate it to the
professionals now with a clear conscience.