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I found a great website this morning when searching for states that permit family caregivers being paid. This link will take you to a document that provides contacts within states that permit the payment for family caregivers.
Just another comment as to getting "paid well" working through an agency I don't get the full pay as if a family member or a private caregiver would get, so, working Monday through Friday all day and all night, I am basically getting paid less then 7.50 an hour, just to put it out there, but it does pay the bills and I feel in my heart I am making a difference.
I get paid to care for my husband's mother in our home and the money is only a tiny part of the job. The biggest stressor is the absolute lack of freedom you have and no amount of money can buy that back. She is in rehab again ( 3 weeks now) and you don't get paid until they are back under your roof. Last year was three months with no pay. I am now looking for full time work to avoid falling back into the financial rut last years stay put us in so what happens when/ if she comes home? If I don't get paid there won't be a home!
Being a caregiver is hard no matter how you came to be one. I was downsized a few years ago making very good money as a legal assistant and was unable to find work in that field. I saw an ad for an agency and thought, wow that would be great to be a companion to someone and get paid for it, I thought much less stress. So, I scaled down my lifestyle and went for it. Let me just say my whole outlook on life has changed---for the better!!! I went through training for dementia and Alzheimer patients. Its very hard, especially when you give 110% and a lot of times no thank you, its hard when you become attached and really care for these people they become like your family, but we also have the option to move on if we want to. BUT, I did not grow up with these people so the family dynamics are not a part of the picture and I can deal with "mom" or "dad" without all the history. I commend you for caring for your parents (I didn't have that opportunity with my own parents and I am not sure I would have been able to given the history) and please, look into the paid situation, I have heard where family caregivers can get paid for the caring. I wish you the best and I wish I could help you....even for just one day!
Since I spend the equivalent of almost a fulltime job taking care of my 91 year old grandmother, and just had the place I have worked for 17 years close, yes getting paid would be great. And essential. I don't think it's fair that just because I am family , I should be expected to do this for for free , when others get paid for exactly what I am doing. And they get paid very well. If his were a non family member, I would be getting paid. Very frustrated. And broke...
Yes it would help a little with the stress BUT then would add another stressor as the other siblings would act like we're robbing her. Even though they don't want to help and don't do ANYTHING for her, they obviously think it's okay for us to pay for the gas and wear and tear on our car to take her to the doctors/stores/etc., extra electricity, using all my spare time for meals, medicine and housework having her in our home, having to use all my leave from work to take her to the doctors, etc. while caring for her (and not having any leave to take a real vacation) all while working full-time, married and raising a child. So my answer would be yes and no. I love her but it is still a hard job that I don't know if financial compensation would have made it any easier.
NOT ME! I left home at 17 worked part time,got my own apt. & really never had anything to do with her. At 52 I retired moved to Fla. (my regret now) & now Im 61 & she has made my life a living HELL EVERY DAY SHE BREATHES. I have my own home & she has hers & there is NO NEED FOR HER to bother & harass me daily. I live alone by choice & my dad has passed. She is a recluse,doesnt drive,has no friends here & resents every person I speak to. So ABSOLUTELY NO AMOUNT OF MONEY would make me feel any better towards her. Sorry, but I cant stand her.
It would be a nice addition,if it were not my mother!! She has always felt that if she gives you money she owns you so to speak.I take care of her and 3-5 grandkids every day.I am a sandwich.The kids are easier,because they are still learning.There is the guilt factor with money issues also,which sucks.
In a word, yes. I gave up two jobs (among many other things) to be my mother's full time caregiver. I have no income, no insurance, and my savings (what little I had) are now gone. We live on her Social Security. So yes, being paid a decent wage would help. At least it would remove one of the stressors involved in this 24/7 job.
No, money has nothing to do with the stress of caregiving for a parent. I make a decent salary looking after my mum, I live in 7 days a week. It is a very stressful job, more because it is my mum. I have always done geriatric care and it is not nearly as stressful as when it is your own parent. Even if I was being paid triple what I make, that has nothing to do with giving up my entire freedom to look after my mum.
I can tell you, positively, that it does help. My Mom is an only child and has never lived alone. She was a very good mother and wife - managed the household and finances very well, all her life until about a year ago. She asked me to take over her her finances in 2012 and I did, but soon it became clear that she needs a companion. She asked me to move in with her - in spite of the fact that I am married and my husband is sick so I am the only bread-winner. It was a very tough decision, except that I have a saint of a husband who knows how frightened my Mom is by herself. He gave his blessing for the relocation, so long as I could work out the economics. (I'm a petroleum engineer.)
I chose to be honest with Mom, while she is still competent...she is stage 5/6 AD. I know that my situation is not typical, but because my Mom does have means, I explained that I could only make it work if I could secure a minimal income after moving in to her home. She said she would rather pay me than a sitter and agreed to a modest monthly stipend in addition to taking over my household utility bills. It has turned out very well, even though I miss my husband's company and I have no social life AT ALL.
I really want to say that my heart goes out to all of you who can't work out a similar strategy. My Mom is not mean-spirited or combative so I can't say how this would work if she became nasty to me. I just want to answer the question that yes, I was horribly resentful and stressed before I worked out this payment arrangement. Now, I only grieve the slow loss of my Mom and occasionally I feel lonely and isolated, but I can be cheerful and patient with Mom because I'm not trying to juggle "work face" and "caretaker face." This is my new job and I am good at it. I don't feel "taken for granted" so I believe it is a total "win-win."
To answer the first question, yes, it would remove a stressor from life. Sigh...I was retired and had a good budget for myself, not to care for someone else, now things are stressed to the max.
Assandache7, I had to quit a job that paid $22 an hour to care for my husband. Yes, it would be nice to be paid, since many of us had to quit jobs or take early retirement and early SS (lower) checks to survive. And then with no or reduced income, we're supposed to hire someone? Get real!
I don't know. It would help me pay my health insurance and car expenses. And I would be able to afford to buy some clothes without dipping into my retirement. And I could take my rabbits to the vet without counting my pennies. Those would be good things. The bad thing would be that my mother would use it as leverage against me. If she was paying me, she would use it as a verbal weapon anytime she was trying to make me do something I'm not willing to do. I don't like to put such weapons into her hand. She can be difficult enough already.
Please don't let me offend anyone !!! I am not saying that professional caregivers have a crappy job !!! You all have hearts of gold ....If it wasn't my Mother I could never be this patient...
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I chose to be honest with Mom, while she is still competent...she is stage 5/6 AD. I know that my situation is not typical, but because my Mom does have means, I explained that I could only make it work if I could secure a minimal income after moving in to her home. She said she would rather pay me than a sitter and agreed to a modest monthly stipend in addition to taking over my household utility bills. It has turned out very well, even though I miss my husband's company and I have no social life AT ALL.
I really want to say that my heart goes out to all of you who can't work out a similar strategy. My Mom is not mean-spirited or combative so I can't say how this would work if she became nasty to me. I just want to answer the question that yes, I was horribly resentful and stressed before I worked out this payment arrangement. Now, I only grieve the slow loss of my Mom and occasionally I feel lonely and isolated, but I can be cheerful and patient with Mom because I'm not trying to juggle "work face" and "caretaker face." This is my new job and I am good at it. I don't feel "taken for granted" so I believe it is a total "win-win."
Just wondering how others felt?? If it would ease the burden???