Then, when these people with the multiple disabilities snap - and kill their parents - why do they get jailed - and still the powers that be still allow it to happen - profoundly disabled people being forced to care for ABUSIVE parents with dementia?
If the OP is just voicing an opinion on something they read then perhaps they might let us know that this is simply something they want to discuss. The post is provocative and without context.
There IS help-- A LOT of it. I am now getting help!! Oh, it's costing big bucks, but they cannot avoid seeing the destruction this care has cost me.
One disabled 50 year old child had had major laminectomy to her neck - yet was forced to be sole carer to her mother - because that's what the mother wanted - and she, the daughter did not have any rights. The poor 50 year old daughter ended up breaking her neck and becoming a quadriplegic. IT was then and only then that her mother was put in a nursing home. The daughter eventually died, but the mother weas still alive.
Then I know of another adult child with a disability forced to care alone for her mother - because that's what the mother wanted. The mother died when the adult child was cc 70. This child then started, for the first time in her live - living and seeking employment - but alas, this poor adult child got breast cancer and died.
Where I used to live, one of my 50 something year old neighbours had a disability - severe epilepsy and intellectual challenges - she was forced to be sole carer to her demented mother - because that's what the mother wanted. This daughter was told she had no rights because of her disability. Her mother used to get really violent and kick her - still she had to keep caring for her mother. Finally, at long last, her mother died - but alas, this poor daugter now has severe bowel cancer, and other issues - all caused by the stress - and she is permanently on a walking frame. Actually, this adult daughter is even worse than me. I can at least shower myself - even though I need a shower stool, courtesy of the stress-induced spinal tumours that were let go too far. This poor girl can't shower herself or dress herself - because of her injuries incurred while caring for her mother. She has to have someone from the local council come in and shower and dress her. She only gets this help three times a week. The rest of the time she has to live in her nightgown - without underwear - very demeaning and horrible life - all because she was forced to care, alone for her mother.
When I was in that situation, one of the carer support groups actually mocked me because of my disability when I contacted them for help with my mother - explaining that I had pre-existing disabilities - courtesy of a history of four major operations - including major back surgery in 2002 - and being forbidden by my neurosurgeon to perform any heavy duties. And, as an aside, my demented mother was 12 stone. I am only 9 stone - yet I was forced to be my mum's human crutch. Mum fell on me once. Because I don't drive, I had to do the shopping for mum and I with just a small two-wheel trolley you pull behind you - another thing my neurosurgeon forbad me to do. At one stage, I did break the law by buying and using a 4-wheel laundry trolley - also a 4-wheel kitchen trolley to do my shopping. But at the shopping centre, some of the elderly women and elderly men staged something similar to a citizens arrest - they came at me with a supermarket trolley, clipped my wheels and tried to pull them off. One elderly gentlemen threatened to punch me in the head when I asked him not to. Well, I was breaking the law trundling up the street with a 4-wheel trolley - but it was better than damaging my neck. I am very lucky I didn't get arrested - but it may have got me the help I needed - albeit with a criminal record on my part.