Husband just turned 66 and had a stroke. He is in rehab. He is adding to the stress. Tee shirt to tight, do I have anything bigger? Pants and shorts too tight. I buy bigger. But they fall down. Bring belt but it's not long enough. Happened to see ear wax drops on dresser but didn't bring. Next day I see him he says he needs his ear drops. Texture of pillow case bothers him. Put tee shirt over pillow. He has been here over a week. This is the first I've heard about the pillow case problem. Couldn't sleep roommate snored. They move him. One night then he complained the bed was too sensitive. Beeps every time he moves. Then he gets another roommate. Who is even annoying to me. And I don't have to sleep here.
To me, when I'm working around the clock as a caregiver, complaining about a pillowcase that isn't the right texture, is just plain ridiculous. If he has dementia, I'd just ignore it and say, It's fine. It'll do. If he doesn't have cognitive decline, then, I can't print here what I'd tell him, but it wouldn't be very nice. At some point, enough is enough.
I feel sorry for him. And want to do what I can to make his stay at rehab less miserable. Only I can't fix everything. And he has too many smaller difficulties for me to cope with.
I think I would make a list of some things I observed about him and discuss it with his doctor. All those complaints don't sound normal to me. I'd try to figure out what's going on with him.
I'm very sensitive too (I have very sensitive skin and am allergic to some soaps, fragrances, etc.), but, I don't drive people crazy when they are trying to help me. His self awareness may not be working. If that is the case, I'd like to know why.
Based on what you've posted about him, I don't have any suggestions for how to please him. Maybe, others will have some ideas. I wish you all the best.
I want to say this but I don't want you to be upset by it, I just want you to remember it when you are feeling overwhelmed by too many problems. You do have a tendency to go looking for trouble, and - lo and behold! - finding it. Try to focus on what really matters and just wave at the rest as it goes by.
E.g. rehab bedlinen. Not your problem. Snoring roommate. Well oh deary me - better than a farting one. As you say yourself, you can't fix everything. Stop trying, then.
Pin up the desiderata. Memorise the serenity prayer. Soon your husband will be home, and "sufficient unto the time is the trouble thereof": his stay in rehab is your chance to charge your batteries in advance. Use it.