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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Sleeping all day, she floats peacefully on the clouds, right outside heaven's gates getting used to that Other Place half here, half there crossing on her own terms and in her own time
God’s solution for crushing tragedy is not an offer of a miraculous remedy.
God offers not a formula to eliminate or insulate, Instead God calls us on the path to participate.
God’s grace transforming our places of humiliation, such is the journey of tragic redemption.
Wise words, pure and true, meant as a healing too1, used wrongly are just cruel.
‘What ifs’ only chain us to the past. Blame games brings healing which does not last.
Naive expectations seek for faith to work like magic. Yet, by faith we walk through the tragic.
Various addictions help excuse our real condition. They block the way for helpful consolation.
Tragic pain easily becomes fused into a sick self-identification. A calloused soul greatly needing tragic redemption.
Tragic feelings deep and real are not the center of the universe, ‘No one knows the trouble I’ve seen’ needs another verse.
Other’s tragedies might not be as bad. While some are far worse than what we had.
Sucking others into our misery, creates a path to further insanity.
Locked in by self centered rage, like a wild animal in a cage.
Bitterness creates an illusion of security and control. Yet, it will not make one whole.
Expecting and demanding perfection creates dark isolation. The courage to be imperfect brings salvation.
Controlling, rationalizing and intellectualizing spreads darkness in our souls. while accepting ourselves as flawed returns the dawn of life into our aching souls.
Isolated souls existing around like souls, hurt, kill and destroy each other. Connected souls living around similar souls, treat each other like sister and brother.
I never meant for her to suffer like this. with their long term antibiotics. turning into c-diff. each of their interventions seemed reasonable at the time. but one snowballs into another. and each treatment lays the groundwork for the the next crisis. each chemical sparks a reaction from her sensitive body. what to do now to help her? not all of us get a good death. but for her for her I would wish other than this.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
right outside heaven's gates
getting used to that Other Place
half here, half there
crossing on her own terms
and in her own time
Winter cold, bone deep
Reason enough to flee life
Loving us tethers her here
What a cop out to say this is who I am and always will be
because of a dysfunctional family
Years of therapy.
can set one free.
Once one has seen the light
one can't claim ignorance in the fight
The choices now made,
can't be blamed on past decisions that others made,
What a cop out to say this is who I am and always will be
because of a dysfunctional family
One can say “the end” and chose to be free.
However, often such freedom from the dark side takes years of hard work in therapy.
To excuse the lack of personal responsibility
is to keep oneself inflicted by one's dysfunctional family.
To empower oneself,
one must stop giving power to the old self
What a cop out to say this is who I am and always will be
because of a dysfunctional family
Stop waiting for others to repent,
for that's wasting energy that can be better spent.
To still wallow in the pain,
is only empowering it,
and holding on to it
which produces no gain.
It's time for many to say “the ending”,
and now “the beginning”.
What a cop out to say this is who I am and always will be
because of a dysfunctional family
God’s solution for crushing tragedy
is not an offer of a miraculous remedy.
God offers not a formula to eliminate or insulate,
Instead God calls us on the path to participate.
God’s grace transforming our places of humiliation,
such is the journey of tragic redemption.
Wise words, pure and true, meant as a healing too1,
used wrongly are just cruel.
‘What ifs’ only chain us to the past.
Blame games brings healing which does not last.
Naive expectations seek for faith to work like magic.
Yet, by faith we walk through the tragic.
Various addictions help excuse our real condition.
They block the way for helpful consolation.
Tragic pain easily becomes fused into a sick self-identification.
A calloused soul greatly needing tragic redemption.
Tragic feelings deep and real are not the center of the universe,
‘No one knows the trouble I’ve seen’ needs another verse.
Other’s tragedies might not be as bad.
While some are far worse than what we had.
Sucking others into our misery,
creates a path to further insanity.
Locked in by self centered rage,
like a wild animal in a cage.
Bitterness creates an illusion of security and control.
Yet, it will not make one whole.
Expecting and demanding perfection creates dark isolation.
The courage to be imperfect brings salvation.
Controlling, rationalizing and intellectualizing spreads darkness in our souls.
while accepting ourselves as flawed returns the dawn of life into our aching souls.
Isolated souls existing around like souls, hurt, kill and destroy each other.
Connected souls living around similar souls, treat each other like sister and brother.
But defining ourselves by how others treat us is emotional deficit
Taking our self-esteem and identity from those who have none is psychological deficit
Family relationships gone selfishly wild
Who among us has not felt like a motherless or a fatherless child?
I never meant for her to suffer like this.
with their long term antibiotics.
turning into
c-diff.
each of their interventions seemed reasonable
at the time.
but one snowballs into another.
and each treatment
lays the groundwork for the
the next crisis.
each chemical
sparks a reaction
from her sensitive body.
what to do now
to help her?
not all of us
get a good death.
but for her
for her
I would wish
other than this.
“Sorry I failed you,” she says.
“Only bodies fail,”
I assured her, “you have not.”