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Depending upon how limited she is in moving around in the house she is, she might not qualify for an assisted living. When did she last see her doctor? How old is she? Has she been evaluated for possible dementia and/or depression? What sort of living situation does he doctor say that she needs at this time?

Does she have the resources to afford to go to a nursing home if that what the doctor recommends or does she qualify for medicaid?

Use the search site box in the upper right hand corner of this page and do a search using the word detachment and you will see some articles about detaching emotionally with love. Right now for whatever reason, your mother is sucking the life out of you like an emotional vacuum cleaner. She can't stop, but you can detach for your own self-protection.

Your not wanting to be around anyone is a clear sign of emotional depletion and possible depression. Get yourself some help. You need your husband's support. So, please try not to isolate yourself from him, but if you do just explain to him that you are totally drained and need his patient support. He's probably feeling very anxious and wondering how to fix things with seeing you suffer with this so.

If she has not seen her doctor very recently, then call her doctor this afternoon; tell the person you speak to that you need to make an appointment very soon, and ask to speak with his or her nurse who will probably need to call you back today, but that will give you some added support ant get the ball rolling!

Please keep in touch, keep venting, keep asking questions, and keep us updated.
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a toxic household can indeed make you sick . the tension is something you can literally see in the air as depression sets in and causes brain fog . i dont have any advice for you but i do understand how tightly wound a household can get .
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Has she been to her doctor recently for a complete evaluation? Are there adult day centers she could attend? It might not be something she is interested in immediately but being around people of her own age and experience might change her outlook. Tell her the doctor said to do this for 30 days. Otherwise, I agree it is time for other living arrangements for Mom.
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brunosmom138, try putting yourself in her shoes for a few moments... her health isn't great, thus she can't do everything she use to do 20 years ago... she isn't around anyone her own age to talk to, etc.... she's not really being noisy, she is just trying to get a conversation going.

Please try to find her an adult day care where she can be with people of her own generation, you might find this will perk her up, she will develop new friends, and she would then be less noisy about what everyone is doing in the household.
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It is obvious that she needs to be in a NH or Assisted Living Center.
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