in other areas of their lives also, and probably have very little, if any integrity. In addition, they probably have very low self-esteem. I believe it would bother an individual terribly who had high-esteem to know that they were not doing right by their siblings and parents, and, therefore, they would change the situation and begin helping out. Basically, what I am trying to convey is that if you have a sibling that does not offer themselves (the best thing you can give anyone), they probably have a poor attitude in other areas of their life, so please don't take their lack of caregiving personally. Speaking for myself, I am still considering whether or not to keep in touch with my sister when our parents are no longer around. I'm undecided at this point, but would be interested in anyone's input on this subject.
I would be happy if EITHER one of my siblings would care AT ALL. It's just so sad and yes....ticks me off as well ...for 6 years now. I'm betting they won't even show up to her funeral....UNLESS there is food involved. UGH!!!!
I know it is a hard decision but I can tell you once you make the decision to save yourself there is a peace. I've just gone through it and for the first time in 2 years I am beginning to feel that I have myself back. My husband put his foot down and said enough is enough. Time for the other siblings to either step up or find suitable NH.
Situations change and we cannot be expected to keep unrealistic promises. God bless!
I too believe that not helping your aging parents is about as low as a person can sink.
I am glad that I am here to help my Mom & Dad at least that way I know they are being well taken care of and I can sleep at night!
Thank you all for being here! God Bless and have a good day.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be good enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end it's between you and God.
It was never about you and them anyway."
MOTHER TERESA
i will also point out, the level of cognition my grandmother has anymore is limited so when they come over, she doesn't know them OR let them help her and just gets agitated, so it's just as well they stay away. otherwise it's more agitation for me and my mother to deal with.