Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
sng, sorry you are going through all of this. I see from your profile that your Mom is living in Assisted Living. May I ask if she is self-pay or is Medicaid paying for her room/board and care?
I see there there are credit card debt for Mom's care. This is your Mom's responsibility, not the responsibility of the grown children. I realize that there are items that Mom needs that the Assisted Living does not give her, thus that tells me she is self-pay, correct?
If yes, maybe it is time to have Mom apply and be accepted by Medicaid which will pay for some for these costs.
So sorry about your situation. I am a bit confused. You say that your in town brother goes to see mom but isn’t aware of what is going on? May I ask why he isn’t aware? Have neither you or mom ever discussed anything with him? Tell your brother and sister the situation if you want them to know. That doesn’t mean they will pick up the financial slack though.
Is your mom out of money? Is it time for her to inquire about Medicaid and switch over to a nursing home? Many people have to do this is funds run low.
None of your siblings are under any obligation to contribute care, either financial or hands-on. I'm sorry...this is not a fair expectation of them, and not a fair expectation from their mother (if this is the case). As the other 2 commenters below mentioned, it is probably time for your mom to apply for Medicaid. Medicaid will consider her medical debt as well. If she qualifies, and if no one else is a co-signer on her credit cards or loans, she can pretty much forget about paying those debts and the creditors will most likely give up trying to collect. That's what happened with my in-laws. When bank was informed of their dementia and NH placement their house went info foreclosure and the bankers never bothered them again. Nor did the cc debt collection companies (and my in-laws owed tens of thousands).
The only problem with going on Medicaid is, your mother will probably have to move out of the assisted living facility. Medicaid in your state uses a waiver program and covers the cost of certain SERVICES in AL, they won’t cover the full cost or the room & board portion.
You cannot force siblings to step in and help pay for anything. Heck, I couldn't get my brother to toss me $40 for mother's Christmas gift. Every single year, he has never paid me back for anything, ever.
It's actually not even your responsibility--but if you want to help out, do so, but don't put your sibs in a position where they have to financially help out.
And also--what about siblings' other family, if they are married? Should I expect my DH to kick in $500 a month for MY mother and not do the same for HIS?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I see there there are credit card debt for Mom's care. This is your Mom's responsibility, not the responsibility of the grown children. I realize that there are items that Mom needs that the Assisted Living does not give her, thus that tells me she is self-pay, correct?
If yes, maybe it is time to have Mom apply and be accepted by Medicaid which will pay for some for these costs.
Is your mom out of money? Is it time for her to inquire about Medicaid and switch over to a nursing home? Many people have to do this is funds run low.
Best wishes to you and your mother.
It's actually not even your responsibility--but if you want to help out, do so, but don't put your sibs in a position where they have to financially help out.
And also--what about siblings' other family, if they are married? Should I expect my DH to kick in $500 a month for MY mother and not do the same for HIS?