My sister also will not accept mail, certified mail, calls and e-mails.Mom is in a nursing home BUT she will not tell us where? Mom will be 89yrs. this wk. (9-2-2011) Sister has also used my mother's SS# to get a $50,000. Student loan for her son in NY City. Plus used her SS# on other things. We (my brother, myself & my mother's 3 brothers) have not been able to find Mom, we can't even talk to her. Have gone to 16 differen't agencies..... no help because of POA. However 1 agency told me she found my mother... but cannot tell me where she is, ONLY that she is OK and that should make us feel better? This is not right. She is my Mother too.. and I love her very much. Wonder what she is thinking about why she hasn't heard from us or her home is gone and everything in it is gone? Might add my sister is known for her lying and she and her family has been in trouble with the law. Also must add sister took her off of medicare and put her on madicade AFTER she sold her home. We found out about house sale and all items removed by serching county records on sale. Can not afford Attorney or a detective. Been on phone 3 weeks......I am Lost, Tired and Hurt. Don't know what else to do?
EVERY Agency has told me this is not right or sister is up to something ,,,,,But none can help? They keep sending me to other Agencies and they send me to others and it keeps going on and on with no help. Thanks for letting me vent.
Frequently, I refer people to kasemcares.org. It is an organization that is responsible for these laws being passed in several states and pending in several more. It was started by the daughters of famed American Top 40 disc jockey Casey Kasem. While he was dying from Lewy Bodies dementia their step mother refused to let them see their father and went so far as to hid him in a different state.
I have no affiliation with the organization- have just read of the good work they are doing. They also have a Facebook page. I'm sure you'll be able to at least gain some good information from their site, if in fact their law has not been passed in your state. Good luck!
Cindy I have called Elder Abuse.. but will try again.
Yvettetracy, Police went to her home twice.. she would not ans.her door to them. They said nothing more they could do, unless they have a court order.
I do not understand why or how my sister has managed to do all of this... but beleive me I have tried everything, other than hiring a attorney. And at $300 an hr. I can't afford. Please understand I live on SS and all of this is happening 5hrs from here. So between distance & money it has been hell.
But I will take all your advise and continue till I get to talk to my Mom. Again I really thank you for all yor help. God Bless you.
As her children, you and your brother have a legal right to know about your mother's welfare, and unless there's some good reason why not, her whereabouts.
What was the agency that told you she was OK but would not reveal where she is? If you identified yourself as her daughter, what reason did they give for not revealing her location? Has your brother also contacted them?
Has your mother been declared incompetent, and has she been put under court-ordered guardianship? If you don’t know, you and your brother have a right to know. A call to the county courthouse would be the first step. Hiring an attorney would certainly be helpful here, but if you can’t afford one, you should contact a legal aid society such as Houston Volunteer Lawyers Program (HVLP) 713-228-0732.
If your mother is not under guardianship, the power of attorney your sister has provides limited powers. There are two types of power of attorney: Financial and medical. If she has financial power of attorney, she has the right to conduct transactions such as selling your mother’s house. If you suspect she has committed fraud against your mother, you should contact the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services (DFPS) Adult Protective Services (APS)1-800-252-5400. You and your brother should gather what specific information you have that you think is fraudulent, such as your sister falsifying a student loan application with your mother’s social security number.
Call your local paper or TV station - start locally and then spread out - and ask to speak to an 'investigative reporter'.
Have all your facts straight BEFORE you do this, and keep it simple. "My sister is hiding my mother from me in a nursing home and no one (name all the agencies) will help me find her. "
All they can say is no - and you will be able to say you've done everything you can.
Texas Department of family and Protective Services
8700 N Stemmons Fwy
Suite 104
Dallas, TX 75247-3715
(214) 951-7902
This is a 1st for me...always thought I would have my mother.