So I had this brilliant idea of having my 91 yo mum come stay with me for 3 months over the holidays. I was looking forward to having her but I am now counting the days...which makes me feel like crap. This woman is no longer the mum I grew up with and I'm am so confused! Her emotions are constantly up and down and I am doing my very best to make sure she is comfortable and having what she needs and yet, she'll snap at me for no reason. Makes me want to bawl my head off. I don't understand. It's almost like she's bipolar or something. I DO understand she is frustrated with the need for dependency but she seems to take that all out on me and accuse me of things SHE feels or does. She is not demanding in any way so again, I feel guilty for just wanting my house back to the way it was before she got here. I am an only child and she is married but her husband doesn't do much to help her. How do you deal with the unnecessary rude comments that feel like a punch? AND the guilt for having these feelings...oh the guilt...
Are there senior groups that you could take her to? She could make some friends, have fun doing activities, while you get some much needed respite. Perhaps a day program for the elderly?
They say you can't go home again, I think you have gotten a glimpse of what that saying is all about! Don't feel guilty for wanting your life back, I bet secretly she feels the same way ;)