Her brother is coming for a visit in a few weeks and she told the caregiver to give her the phone and her credit card so she can get plane tickets so they can go to Charleston while he is here. Um no. First of all, she can't get on a plane and second of all, NO! I am going to have to take her credit card away from her. I know I should have already done it but she hasn't really asked for anything. She does want to order some fancy English muffins for while he is here since he loves them. She has no concept of money and how much she has left, etc. Daddy paid all the bills and gave her a stipend and didn't care how she spent it. Ugh. This just sucks...
I left it in her wallet for her caregiver to use for groceries and such but I am going to have to lie and tell her that I took it - even though I will leave it with the caregiver.
My mother is depressed and distraught that she has no way to slip my brother's money but I can't let her give it all away because then I will be stuck paying her way and that would be the equivalent of me giving money to them directly.