I have been taking care of my mom for 4 yrs now and I have noticed that I am truly alone here, no boyfriend or husband to support me, and taking it all with my sick mom, never got in a true relationship because I was abused and did not trust guys very much, and now with my mom saying again and again that because of my character I am alone I am beginning to believe it, I am 56 and my only true loves are my two dogs. Help
I am 54 y.o. widow x 3yrs.
But aside from that, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND that you find yourself friends, a life of your choosing, time for yourself even at Mom's. I am a prime example of a lonely woman. I lost all my friends(church, girlfriends, social gatherings and lots more) when I was diagnosed with several medical illnesses. My caregiving friends know some of my stuff. That said, you do not want to lose your health number one and lose yourself number 2. It all happens so fast. I struggle everyday taking care of my mom and disabled brother with the knowledge that i will be doing this for the rest of my life. It is a struggle.
Get out of that house. Go sit in your car and sing, take a nap, pray and watch people go by or something. Do something. Get yourself together and find something you like to do. Do not let your mom dictate to you how you feel, and why something is happening to you, that you are the reason that you have no friends for fellows. WHAT!! warning: you do not want to be me.
Peace, love and prayers to you caregiver warrior. Let me know what is going on with you.