Since Dec.19 the person who I've been sharing a house with for 16 yrs. has had her 84 yr old mother come here to live.She was formerly living unassisted at a senior housing complex. She was evicted from elderly housing for being a trouble maker. Always having to fight with someone. Who ever gets kicked out of senior housing. She finally crossed the wrong person.The head of maintenance. She could never keep her mouth shut and out of people's business. She bad mouthed his wife and and was mad when he didn't want anything else to do with her. She was always jealous when he did something for someone else or gave them something. So to try and get him back Miss spiteful told him she saw him do something that could possibly cause him to lose his job.Since she pissed off just about everyone in the place he and others reported her to management. Now she is here still loving to fight, and her daughter does everything for her plus work 4 days a wk.Needless to say we have had dust ups over the years.Her daughter most times makes excuses for her bad behavior.There is no privacy to talk even on the phone.She has bionic hearing and basically not much wrong health wise.I'm 66 her daughter is 54.Also I have to be here when she works at 3 to midnight.I have so much resentment,anxiety etc. All of you know how this goes. It seems I'm not handling this well and It put me in the hospital for 3 days.Passed out on the deck,taken to the hospital with a bleeding colon,low blood pressure, hypothermia,anxiety.Is there anyone else in this type of situation?There is just so much invested here as most yard work, gardening,repairs have been done by me.I love my plants and birds.
Are the two of you in a committed relationship as well as being housemates?
Sorry to be so nosy, but these answers probably factor into the available options.
At the very least, no matter who owns the house and what your relationship is, refuse to be the granny sitter when her daughter works. If the mother truly cannot be alone, she needs to be in a care center with 24 hour staff, or her daughter needs to provide a paid caregiver for those hours.