My dad has dementia and also was diagnosed Jan of 09 with lung cancer, he took treatments for cancer.
Friday he went to bed at about 10:30 and didn't get up again until sunday around 3 and was up and down every 10 minutes or so until about 9pm and then he only got up monday long enough to get shaved and a shower and went back to bed until tonight at 6.
he ate 2 sandwiches and went back to bed, I don't know if this is it or if he's going to rally again, its been such a roller coaster ride and I'm tired and he's tired
he is on hospice and has been for a long time, the nurse came today and said she thought we were down to hours or days. he's been down before and we thought it was coming and then he rallies, but this time he is sleeping lots longer, I so want this to be over for him he has no quality of life and doesn't know who I am anymore its just sad this disease is horrible!!
I don't have a question but does any one have any experience with last days and is this it or am I wrong. I know no one knows, guess I'm venting I'm just so stressed I feel like I can't breath. thanks for letting me rant
when your dad shows terminal restlessness as in going from chair to bed to chair to general wandering , this will turn into terminal agitation . there is no calming them without morphine at this time . the organs are dying . when they decline water i think they have hours left .
this is just personal experience but i hope it helps you . when purplish mottling occurs in the feet and ankles , circulation has shut down to a small loop to keep organs alive . tell them you love and appreciate them even if theyre unconscience . i think they can hear you . phsycosis is like that -- heightened senses , especially hearing ..
Be there for him, and know that this part of the journey will be over soon.