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It is so hard to deal with Ritchie. My Dad has dementia and can just drive you nuts! He can hurt your feelings and make you so damn mad. I just have to step back, take a breath and remember what a kind and wise father he was, and still is sometimes. I know you have memories like that too about your wife.
Remember that she's directing her anger at you for placing her there, and she does have a disease and probably really doesn't realize what she's saying. It is hard to take it personally, but please try not. She probably can't help the anger she feels.
Just remember the reasons why this action was necessary if, or when, you feel guilty.
Yesterday my wife was actually peaceful and loving-Oboy maybe we have turned the corner. Today was the opposite. The usual, "when am I going home" This is what she asks me all the time and I keep saying,"it;s up to the doctor" As I was walking to the exit she followed me yelling, F-U, F-U with her finger pointed at me. She may have a disease but I am beginning to take it personally. No-today I did take it personally.
Richie, I hope the new place where your wife is is a winner, thus giving you time to breathe and not keep second guessing if you are doing the right thing or not [which is only human]. Just remember, you are doing the best you can.
I'm certainly hopeful this placement works out for both you and your wife. It sounds like more like some of the places actor and actresses go to, so it probably will provide a level of care above the facilities with which you've had prior experience.
Please keep us posted on this critical journey of you and your wife. And take some time off to get some rest today!
My wife is in a psych. rehab facility-that is what I will call it. She is on new meds. and evaluated every day by a professional. This place is like a heaven for the ill. You have to know someone to get in there or be quite rich. I just know a couple of kind and caring friends who are wonderful and they have known my wife for years. She'll probably be there for a week and than we will see.
Richie, I know that you've had some difficult with other placements. I'm wondering if you've checked the Medicare ratings to narrow down your search?
You're going through a really rough time, having to make not only the decision for a placement but finding something suitable. I made out a checklist to use when interviewing and inspecting places. If I didn't, it was too easy to overlook something on the facility tour.
I've decided to place her somwhere. When she looked at me I could see that she was not mentally in our world. Thankyou to all of my friends. Now starts the search.!.
I hope this works out for you and your wife Ritchie. Keep an open mind. I can't imagine how tough this is. With the level of her problems there may be nothing that's a perfect fit but she needs to be in care. I know you'll do what's best for her.
Richie, I think you've really been on quite a journey trying to find a place for your wife, and becoming comfortable with your decision. I recall from your earlier posts that it hasn't been an easy journey, more like rock climbing in gale force winds.
Are you any closer to resolution of the facility as well as personal dilemma issues?
Could you tell us more about this facility, what's happened during the past few weeks, and how life's treating you these days?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Just remember the reasons why this action was necessary if, or when, you feel guilty.
Keep us up-to-date. We are here for you.
Please keep us posted on this critical journey of you and your wife. And take some time off to get some rest today!
You're going through a really rough time, having to make not only the decision for a placement but finding something suitable. I made out a checklist to use when interviewing and inspecting places. If I didn't, it was too easy to overlook something on the facility tour.
Hang in there!
Are you any closer to resolution of the facility as well as personal dilemma issues?
Could you tell us more about this facility, what's happened during the past few weeks, and how life's treating you these days?