My husband got a timeline from the structural engineers today of 6 months to complete repairs on my MIL's house. Then he heard some good news - the relative that is very connected with the VA called to let him know that a bed had just opened at the Veteran's Home - she said that NEVER happens. Doug is going to go tour it tomorrow. The problems may be getting MIL to agree to go, but with her home out of commission for 6 months, she has to go somewhere. She was always very proud of being a veteran, so this might go over better. Keeping fingers crossed.
When my husband said to her, "it's only temporary", she said, "you know, living by myself is going to be hard". After all the battles he fought with her getting her to even consider assisted living - then once she sees the place she says that! His jaw about his the ground! He is delighted, of course, and we are looking at this placement as permanent.
My husband is hoping to be home on Tuesday or Wednesday, and I have a call into my job hoping to go back to work (keeping my fingers crossed that they held it for me).
As they say it usually takes a crises to make our elders think twice about where they live. Being in assisted living now your Mom-in-law doesn't need to worry about a house, about storms, about the power going out, about trees come down, etc.