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I really wonder that so many people find the strength to continue living under the most ghastly situations. I guess if we all gave up and folded too easily humans would have died out eons ago? But I need more raisons ---raison d'etres!
if you really knew who walk beside you every day you would find peace through all of this you sound so frustrated.take a deep breath and walk out side it beautiful
beautiful? we have about 8 inches of snow on the ground here in indiana and it ceased being beautiful to me years ago. but na, jenny, we dont give up easily. we have much to be thankful for but sometimes these things are somewhat obscured by our immediate problems. gotta enjoy the small things. im having a cup of coffee and a pipe full of tobacco and i might even put a pinch of special flavoring on top of the tobacco.
you sound so much more relaxed your a wonderful person and you will be blessed and you woke up breathing your still standing and how lovely would it be where you live i have never see snow have a beautiful day you deserve
Perhaps we do these things because we look at the alternatives and they are worse or provide no comfort to us either. As for caring for our mothers and dads who else but the surviving children should look out for their parents well being. It is a hardship for many of us to be sure. But there are little joys and moments of satisfaction that make even the harshest of days bearable. As I write this my poor sweet Mother, a woman who could find the good and the worthwhile in everything and everybody and who spent twice as much time doing the weekly food shopping because of the little conversations she shared with the people she ran into and the employees at work whose lives and families she knew and cared about, is giving her husband of thirty years, my stepdad, a very hard time. She probably doesn't even know it. He was the love of her life, and probably still is. For the past six years he has stayed at side, watching helplessly like all of us as his wife, his best friend, turns into someone none of us know anymore, as she does things for reasons none of us understands, least of all her. When she holds her head in her hands and says "I think" but then cannot...I want to scream. When she holds her head in her hands and says "My head..." I shudder for fear of what is going through her mind, for what "thoughts" are hurting her and making her do what she does. That makes her want her baby, or want her Mother, and mostly at the oddest of times. I shudder and am angered at my own ongoing stupidity that doesn't allow me to tell her what is going wrong, or going off, in "her head." Daily, my heart breaks for them, these sad, lost people who had their lives stolen from them. Yes I question God's plan for my Mother! (I know I should not.) But gee isn't aging/living in the face of one's mortality a sufficient nightmare with which to live and deal as we sense our body giving out on us. Does one's mind need to be f___ed with too? My Mother's Mother lived to 100 and dementia only entered the picture during the last few years. We've been not so lucky with my Mother, and of course who knows what is in store for me. In my view, and apparently my husband is with me on this though we've not yet talked it out, providing the two of them a warm, inviting and comfortable (family room?) place in which to spend their days and to work out for themselves this tenuous life of theirs, as long as it continues, this then is what I can do for them. I wish you peace, Jenny. because I cannot give you reasons to go on. I have too many fears of NOT going on. But that's my problem, and I've got to find the way to deal with THAT. Good luck to you!
the biggest benefit in visiting this site for the last year was the realization that my burden and struggle was nothing unique. nearly everyone here is struggling with the same thoughts and fears. my only advice is to keep in mind that the elder in your care is as vulnerable as a newborn and will require extreme patience. sadly they will decline and it gets increasingly complicated.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
but na, jenny, we dont give up easily. we have much to be thankful for but sometimes these things are somewhat obscured by our immediate problems. gotta enjoy the small things. im having a cup of coffee and a pipe full of tobacco and i might even put a pinch of special flavoring on top of the tobacco.