My 75 yr old mom had a massive stroke last year and I had to bring her to my city/state and place her in a nursing home for rehab and now for long term residency. She recovered quite a bit but still has some major paralysis and loss of sight. My mom was on the decline for about 6 years even before the stroke. My problem is with dealing with her borderline personality disorder. She is on psych meds and sees a therapist once a week and I visit alot and take her on outings to try to make her day and keep her stable. Of course, it doesn't help. She has been telling me she can't deal with her life anymore and that she might just blow up and get herself kicked out of the nursing home. She can't live with me because she will manipulate and abuse me with her words and will overtake her pain medication. What will happen if she ever gets kicked out?
Make it clear to your mom that there is nothing that she can do that will end up with her living in your home. She would not be safe there