Dad is 88, in a wheelchair & needs 24/7 care. He recently had a stroke & suffers from dementia. He is a happy & sweet man. We have to dress him, change diapers, bathe him. We take him to all medical appts & coordinate all healthcare care including medication. He receives 3+ delicious home cooked meals a day. We do his laundry & change his bed linens. It takes both of us to get dad in & out of the car. We are also in charge of selling his assets. I have POA. We don't want to overcharge but want to be fairly compensated. Dad can afford the $3000 a month
I see you are already working out what is and is not worth the battle, and I congratulate you - I wish I'd got there as fast.
Sure enough, once mother was home, I found the tabs in place and unmolested. I'd still like to shove the dam' thing up her nostril.
Do you think there might have been an element of too many cooks (with too few cooking skills) involved in all this?
You can probably take some swabs yourself and bag them up, if that's easier than hauling the whole thing in?