My husband used to love to do so many things. Now I can not find anything to interest him. All he wants to do is ride in the car - maybe get a milkshake and not to go home. I am really tired of driving around for no reason and really no place to go. I try to think of anything he might do to fill some time but haven't come up with anything he wants to do. Does anyone have any ideas?
I said " I am not really happy, I miss her and I enjoyed the time I spent caring for her and I found a great peace in my heart knowing I did what was best for her and I would do it again." I actually feel bad for the people who make lame excuses and really could have helped but didn't, because I was doing it all as if I had a choice. They have to live with themselves and I really think it bothers them now that I have peace of mind and heart that they cannot even understand and probably never will. Sharing this helps me as I hope it will give strength to you all as well.
Good luck!
We have this frustrating situation with my Mother, too. She is 93, has macular degeneration, dementia, and helpless. Caregivers and I keep her walking, exercising large muscles, using a squeezie ball to strengthen hands and coordination. Non-stop music channel on flatscreen. We read nursery rhymes to her and let her complete the verse, or try to remember song lyrics. She and I are both vocalists, so we are always breaking into song around the house. Sometimes she remembers lyrics I cannot, and that goes a long way. You could read Bible, too, or any book that has value to you and your husband. Did he like to garden, or cook, or fix things? Maybe Tinkertoys or a train set. I'm stretching here.
I hope you can relate to some of these things, or that it will inspire your own activities. It is the toughest position we can be in, I know. Thank God for this wonderful place:) HUGS
Happier days everyone!
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