Recently I have been struggling with myself when I want to call my mom in the nursing home. My mom has Alzheimers/dementia and when I call her she has trouble speaking and of course remembering things. She often get really nervous and upset. I always hear noises in the background. It seems all of this upsets my mom and therefore I feel like my calls are more harm than good. I know my mom wants to talk to me, but it seems we can't have a successful conversation due to all the aforementioned. What should I do..,,, not call....?
I noticed when I called my brother from my mom's house (I put him on speaker phone) he talked waaaaay too fast for my mom to be able to process. I told him to sl-o-w-w-w-w-w down and to SPEAK UP. He felt very uncomfortable doing that, but that's what it takes for our mom to be able to hear and process what we say.
I'm sure you'll get other good answers. I know this isn't easy for either of you.