My Mom is his only caregiver but now he is getting physically violent with her. Even though he is frail, in his moments of rage and outburst, he is very strong! He's been in the hospital for over a week. From one of his drunken falls down the stairs, he needed to get Hip Joint ball replacement surgery from a previous hip surgery that got bumped out of place. While in the hospital, he has started going through alcohol withdrawals and they haven't released him yet. He hits and kicks my mom. Last night, he grabbed her by the hair from his hospital bed and it took 5 people to release his grip on her. When they release him to go home, I am scared for my mom. He refuses to go to alcohol rehab and will continue to drink when he gets home. He has Alcohol and Age related dementia. What can I suggest for my Mom to do for her safety?
It 100% easier getting a patient placed in long term care, when they are already out of the hospital.
I also fear, that he will just fall again, at home.
Your mother is going to have to say that she cannot care for him and that she is afraid for her safety. They will find a placement for him.
Do your parents have funds for dad to live in a facility? If not, you need to find an eldercare attorney who understands the Medicaid process. Your mother will be entitled to funds as a "community spouse". Please do not let your mom's fear of the unknown get in the way of getting dad the care he needs.