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Oh yes! When my mom does it to me, I think she means it as a 'dig', as in, the only reason you must not be talking to me would be if you are dead. I file this sort of remark under "guilting your adult daughter into caring more'.
OH sad, my Mom asked me is she was once also, it must be a fear of theirs. On another note, Mom lived alone 10 years and then after she had her strokes she started crying for her husband again, she still thinks he IS alive. We have to say he is on his way home, in the bathroom, etc, and each time she forgets within minutes. They say alz is like peeling an onion and they go back and back and back in time. Sometimes she doesnt believe I am her daughter because ths thinks I am supposed to me little.
My Mom has alz. and has recently asked me if she is dead and I reassure her that she is very much alive and with me and that we all get older and get to go to Heaven someday to be with all our family and friends. That seems to make her happy until the next time she asks me about friends and family that have died but I just keep reminding her that they are in Heaven and we will get to see them when we get there.
my father passed about 5 yrs ago- he was 95-they were married 27yrs,not a peaceful marriage-very angry ,screaming etc. but he always kept in contact with her , and we all would go out birthdays,some holidays- he called her everyday until he became very ill. she has said to me- how is dad- or he is very sick right? or he was a smart man- but he suffered so- had a hard time- where is he? he talks to me sometimes-why doesnt he come over? I told her he cant come here- he is in another place- Ill tell her he is with marlene-my sister- my grandparents-and others in the family that have passed. lately she has said-where is dad?he is dead right?I miss him- it makes me cry i say yes, he isnt here anymore- but he is with us, in a different way. I believe our bodies die, but our souls and our energy dont- how can u kill energy? we have talked about that a lot in the past- she wishes she could believe that way- but isnt sure- i hate this disease!!btw,finally got the dr to start to lower her haldol med. hope it isnt too late.
I think she's worried about losing you also. Reassure her that you are fine and that she will always be taken care of. If it is just the two of you, you may want to have a plan in place for her care if something were to happen to you. Best Wishes!
I has something similar,My mums brother died 2 years ago,she seemed ok with it at the time, and I thought she had accepted it. About 2 weeks ago,she said "Why has Michael not rung me or contacted me recently" I thought,oh no.So I very gently went into what had happened,he had been ill,then went into hospital,and then unfortunately he had passed away,She said "Well,its very rude,he could have rung" I said "I'm sure if he could have he would" She still keeps asking me why he does not ring.She has alzeimers,no one can explain what they are thinking, There is no rational answer.I think you can over explain. Its very sad.Has she Dementia?
I know you cannot rationalize with folks that are nearing Alz/Dem...but can you state back to her; "Well you called me...your fingers touched the key pad..you heard the dial tone and the ringing...and you heard me answer HELLO....does that not mean I am alive?" I try rationalization with my mom even though folks say 'why bother'...I think it does help if I go over the scenario with my mom even if it is 15 times sometimes.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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but he always kept in contact with her , and we all would go out birthdays,some holidays- he called her everyday until he became very ill.
she has said to me- how is dad- or he is very sick right?
or he was a smart man- but he suffered so- had a hard time-
where is he? he talks to me sometimes-why doesnt he come over?
I told her he cant come here- he is in another place-
Ill tell her he is with marlene-my sister- my grandparents-and others in the family that have passed.
lately she has said-where is dad?he is dead right?I miss him-
it makes me cry i say yes, he isnt here anymore- but
he is with us, in a different way.
I believe our bodies die, but our souls and our energy dont-
how can u kill energy? we have talked about that a lot in the past-
she wishes she could believe that way- but isnt sure-
i hate this disease!!btw,finally got the dr to start to lower her haldol med. hope it isnt too late.
About 2 weeks ago,she said "Why has Michael not rung me or contacted me recently" I thought,oh no.So I very gently went into what had happened,he had been ill,then went into hospital,and then unfortunately he had passed away,She said "Well,its very rude,he could have rung" I said "I'm sure if he could have he would" She still keeps asking me why he does not ring.She has alzeimers,no one can explain what they are thinking,
There is no rational answer.I think you can over explain.
Its very sad.Has she Dementia?