My Mom has Alzheimer's and recently she has become very angry around my step son. He is special needs, He watches TV and sings, very pleasant to be around but when he makes any type of loud noise my mother becomes very upset. Recently the care giver has caught Mom stomping on his feet and the other day she picked up a candle and was going to hit him. I have no idea what to do.
Sometimes you really have to research and make a lot of contacts to find some assistance; I think there's still an attitude that people with special needs don't fit into a traditional workforce or that it's too difficult to accommodate them.
The neurologist said they need to be in a nursing home if mom is interfering with dad's care. The geriatric psychiatrist said they can not be placed together because their needs are different and to keep them home for now. Dad has Parkinson's and is on a feeding tube and she needs memory care.
My sister and I visited a facility close by to have a back up plan in place.
The Dr started mom on Trazodone which seems to calm her a bit and she is behaving better this month. Now dad is sundowning.
We have a CNA from an agency with them 24/7.
This is very challenging and the rest of the world's problems don't stop just because we are caregiving.
Just when you catch your breath, Boom!