People on this board are amazing! I only have one person to worry about, I have some money (, my wife Never missed a day of work) I have a home and a good Dog! Everybody here is so Mellow even with multiple people to take of, trying to stretch a buck, and getting up in the morning. Will I ever get that kind of thankfulness or will I stay a Wimp?
mincemeat - that would be my mother's aspiration, but she has not succeeded with me anyway, though she had one psychiatrist jumping and asking how high on the way up. Time to detach, detach, detach. It does your dad no favour to enable his unhealthy behaviour. Detaching and setting boundaries is not disrespectful.
Thankful or wimpy? Should you have to choose? I would say just be the best you can be for you and your wife (and doggie too!). I think that's more important than falling into categories.