My mom is 82 year old and was recently treated with radiation on 2 masses on her spine due to follicular lymphoma. One day she woke up and could not walk due to (later found out) compression of the spinal cord. Her bladder has also been affected and she can no longer urinate on her own and uses a foley catheter which we are hearing may be a permanent thing. Her overall condition with lymphoma is stabilized, but she may never urinate or walk on her own again (still needs hoyer lift in rehab). She is currently in short term rehab, but progress is VERY SLOW and long term care seems inevitable (although I am still keeping the faith that things can turn around). This all started 6 weeks ago - before this she lived alone with part time live-in company of my brother, and me and another brother live close by. She is a vibrant women who still have her faculties and wants to live. She and her family do not have much money and are in the process of applying for Medicaid. I would love to get her home eventually even if she cannot walk or urinate, but not sure this is logical. Are there any programs through Medicaid in NYC to get at home services for her disabilities so she doesn't need long term care in a nursing home? Would love any help and advice I could get. If my desires are unreasonable I would like to know that too, so I can resign myself to the fact she will likely always have to live away from home in a nursing home facility. Thank you everyone.
You need to do what is the best interest of your Mom and if you and your family would be able to give her that higher level of care, on your own, at home 24 hours a day.