He wants to cooperate but does not understand moving his arms or legs any way to help with dressing. When I try to help move an arm or leg he gets very rigid and the limb is extremely heavy. Thinking there must be some helpful hints with this daily process.
A good rule of thumb when helping him get dressed in the knit, pullover, and sweat pants the others recommended is to dress the affected side first (for someone with a stroke or other paralysis). Then when getting undressed do the opposite and undress the unaffected side first.
It's usually easier and safer to dress someone while they're sitting down. Pull the pants up to the knees then help your husband to stand while you pull them up the rest of the way. Dressing someone while they're standing, which is the usual way we get dressed, can affect their balance and if they begin to topple over their first instinct is to reach out to us and we will topple over with them.
For the most part sitting still seems to work best. Getting the slacks up to her knees then standing to finish.
The final struggle is to get her to stand still while I comb her hair. Chasing her down the hall is not fun.
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My mom has a dementia and is in a wheelchair. So when I get her up, it is always "Stand. Turn. Sit." When I start moving her, I say, almost like a nursery rhyme: "Watch your hands, watch your feet. Watch your arms, watch your legs." She does respond and seems to remember the simple "commands." Again, I don't know if this might work. Something like: "Left arm up" - every time - to get the left sleeve in. "Both hands up" - every time - to pull over a top. Again, I may be way out in left field. Just wanted to offer another possible approach. Best wishes.
pants and nice easy to fit tops. In a very short time I got into the system of dressing Mom and it wasn't a challenge any more. BeckyT and Others have given great advice. Do not be afraid to ask a Nurse Who You know for advice as They are only delighted to help.
There must be other companies that have this - I got the catalogue from mom's NH - try 'handicapped adapted clothing' online & you should find something fairly fast