I used to work but since my fathers health condition has gotten worse, he will not allow anyone else to care for him but me. I've had to quit my job and have depleted my funds. My father receives ssd, but he will not part with any, I am at my wits ends, I love him and want him to be happy by keeping him at home, but I can't afford it much longer. What can I do? Are there any resources for me?
Tell him he has 2 choices.... choice 1 is paying for Aids to come into the home to help out.... choice 2 is relocating to Assistant Living. Let him make the choice. As for the Aids, get male helpers, maybe someone who is former military, it would be tough to thrown them out.
Does the VA has an elder care home that your Dad could move into? That way you can get back into the work force and start planning for your own retirement fund. Otherwise you will be doing the work of 3 daily full-time Caregivers, and that will be exhausting. You need to start planning out what is next.
Disabled American Veterans is the assistance group I referred to in previous post. They have a website (dav dot org) and a regional office in St. Petersburg. They will help you free of charge to get services/benefits your father qualifies for.
Ok, good luck to you! I thought I'd follow up with more specific info about how you might go about getting assistance through VA.
Also, there are social workers available with the VA. There are also outside agencies that work with families of veterans to obtain the services that the vet is entitled to but may not be aware of.
I don't see why your father wouldn't qualify for home nurse visits like my father does but it starts with a doctor's appointment through the VA.