Hi, I'm looking for some type of Behavior Agreement or Contract. My mother is being told to move in with us. She has a tendency to punish us by refusing to eat or take her meds, etc. She's diabetic, on insulin and antidepressants. I'd like to propose a "Welcome Home", here are the ground rules... (modifiable to be mutually agreed upon)
Not looking for a legally binding agreement, just basic stuff, like, when she refuses to eat or take meds in 12 hour period, we call 911.
By whom? Who is telling your mother that she must move in with you without first obtaining your freely given consent?
This sounds like a terrible idea. Not least because, although ground rules are a good idea in general, you seem to imagine your mother will be capable of comprehending this kind of agreement in a meaningful way. From your description of her I seriously doubt that.
And everything you do around the house won't be right, you will need to start doing things her way.... like folding towels, arranging the kitchen cabinets, the house is too cold, yada, yada, yada.
As for calling 911, please don't use the paramedics time when your Mom is refusing to do things.
Do what nurses do if a patient won't take their meds, the meds get crushed into pudding or ice cream [or whatever your Mom can safely eat since she is a diabetic]. My Mom got to a point when she ate chocolate ice cream without the meds, she didn't like the taste.... with the meds she loved it :)
Were you also thinking of a payment contract? I hope so, if you insist on going along with having your mother move in with you.
And who told her she had to move in with you?
"Mom is being told to move in with us" Sounds like you are trying to control her. You may find this will be impossible. I would be surprised if she hasn't already bulked at that.
If moving her in is because you think she'll do what u want her to do, ur in for a big surprise. You may want to reconsider ur decision if Mom is competent.