Mother is 80 and a widow for 17 years. For the past 18 months my family and I have been taking care of her 24/7 in our home some 600 miles from her home in another state. I try to take her back to her home every few months for about a month or so to check on her house and take her to doctor appointments. Anyhow, I would like to take her to a senior citizens center so that she can engage with adults her age, but in the past she has been adamant that she is not interested, because, "All they do is ask questions and want to know your business."
I've explained, "That's how people get to know one another and become friends."
I think she needs socialization with other people besides me because, honestly, we don't really have much to say to one another when we're together, or if we do, it's about the weather, or something equally superficial.
Tell your mom if she changes her mind, you’d be glad to take her. But if she’s satisfied at home, just let it be.
Mother sounds the opposite of your mom. She really isn't concerned about pleasing others. When she was in the nursing home for rehab she didn't want to participate in any activities or socialize. She was actually kinda mean and a sweet old lady got hurt feelings.
I think I could have her think she is going with me rather than the other way around. Lol.