I've learned how to get around mom's problem after 64 years of practice, patience and love, but loving someone with this disorder can be a challenge. Mom is 98 and has suffered with this all her life, as has anyone who loves her...or even just likes her. Now, at this age, I love her even more because she is so vulnerable and feels so helpless and useless. She was once a stunningly gorgeous woman and that was a powerful tool. I heard an apt description once of people like this...loves to hate, hates to be loved. My mom was the victim of the vilest kind of child abuse and neglect, so she comes by it honestly, I don't hold it against her. Anyone relate?