My father went into assisted living in February and it's been great for him. He has 24 hour good care and lots of activities all day. However, I now feel very alone and vulnerable like never before. I moved here last year to be near my father and brother. My relationship with my brother collapsed for good over the last year. He and his family are mentally abusive towards me in numerous ways. Like for example, they'll be nice but then all of a sudden turn on me and make it clear that they have that "unique" ability to do that and that I can't do that. You know what I mean?
I know no one here and I have no idea what I will do if I it gets any worse for me. Before I used to go over to my fathers and stay for the weekend. Sometimes for longer. Now I can't do that. I contacted an old friend who lives far away recently but they, as I knew, are in very bad health and have major family issues, although they do have loving support. I have none whatsoever now, other than my father who can understand but can't do anything if I need some kind of care. It probably will work out for me in time - I have been successful in my life in many respects, but the last year has been a major disaster by any standard. It's almost like the environment here is pushing me into destruction! Does or has anyone else feel this way? How do you or did you successfully deal with it?
Yes, some years ago as my work started really heat up I had to budget my free time. At that exact time my brother came home very depressed. I took care of him for quite a while. I did tell my friends what was going on and that I would not be going out with them for the foreseeable future. That was many years ago.
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Sure, yeah right. And I'm the King of Brunei.
Please take care of your friends from the past. Friendship isn't just about meeting new people. It's also about re-kindling old friendships. Not discarding them, when they're no longer useful. Today, do something nice, unexpected, for your vulnerable, sick friend.
Get a job. Become financially independent.
You mention a lot, rich people.
You also mention a lot, what's wrong with several people's personalities. Is there anything wrong with your personality? When you do mention some kind of "fault" about yourself, it's disguised as a compliment for yourself: kind of like, I was too kind, too giving, too mature, I was just too great.
Work hard. Create your own life.
This was very rude of you.
The woman was concerned about you. Her wealth has nothing to do with it. She didn't feel entitled. She was worried about you, and encouraged you to do your homework.
For example, an appropriate reply would be, "Thanks for your concern. Actually I already finished my homework. Yipee!"
The woman would have answered something like, "That's great. But please be careful walking at night alone."
Your reply was rude, like a brat, and created totally unnecessary conflict.
Actually I did hear once someone in my neighborhood say something about the rich woman behind her back but now that I think about it this person was fairly new so they may not have known that she was rich.
But I rather describe it this way:
You enjoy talking badly about other people and their faults. It can be your brother, it can be anyone. If you don't criticize your brother, you'll criticize another person (like suddenly mentioning that rich woman). You criticize so that you can give a compliment to yourself.
People who enjoy talking badly about other people tend to do that their whole lives, and non-stop. It makes them feel better about themselves.
I hope you won't be like that your whole life.
Do not engage. Don't feed the troll.