My husband says his mom will resist.Says she won't want to be with old people she doesn't know. She is very attached to me, wants to go everywhere with me. I am with her 6 days a week from morning till bedtime. She doesn't walk well and it is frustrating to get errands done.She has Alzheimers and can't stay home alone. I also have 3 teens who have needs and have to grocery shop etc. I have no time to myself. He has forms in hand to apply for home help through her insurance but is dragging his feet. He just doesn't understand how isolating and exhausting and tedious it can be. She repeats the same things over and over all day. I just need some time alone in the day. So i want to try Day Care.
The second was exactly the opposite; it was a smaller area, decorated attractively but closed in by locked doors. Just viewing it gave me a sense of claustrophobia. The "guests" seemed depressed, some with thousand yard stares. After seeing that I knew that I would never under any circumstances take my father there, even if he ever did need day care (which he doesn't).
I would tour several before making a decision. But I would also make arrangements to be away for an entire day on Saturday, or a day when your husband is off, and let him take over the responsibilities. That's the only way he'll understand what you're going through.
Better yet, I like Babalou's suggestion - take a whole week off.