A new caregiver was demanding changes and being judgemental concerning logs documentstion and care for my client. I've been with him for almost 7 years now. Home health visits PA and Attorney all say things look good. She really was pushing to make him do things. He is of sound mind. I'll be d*mned if anyone is going to make this man do anything. 87 years old. Some health issues. Wants to pass at home. He is clear a s a bell. Would like to see him at peace, no pressures his dignity, pride and ego intack. I have POA over health and hiring and firing.
You get bright-eyed, bushy-tailed, dogmatic people like that. In fact I've got a SIL like that, convinced that if I chivvy my mother out of bed at dawn, feed her linseed at breakfast and chase her round the house a bit more she'll be restored to her former, active self in no time. I expect my mother *could* make herself a hot drink; and if I weren't such a fraidy-cat when it comes to the risk of falls, scalds and electrocution I'd probably encourage her to do so...
So I can understand how this person must have grated on you. What matters is that the activities of daily living get done, not who initiates and executes them. Your client needs caregivers because he's no longer capable. That's not self-neglect, that's age and frailty. Glad you got good back up from the people who know! - more power to you.
Many elders neglect themselves -- their homes haven't been clean in 4 hour years and they won't let anyone in to clean, they subsist on Ding Dongs and Cheetos, they can't remember when they last bathed, etc.
Self neglect is a real phenomenon. Whether it remotely applies here or not I couldn't guess. The caregiver's intentions might have been sterling, but clearly her approach was not compatible with your goals.
I hope you have better luck with your next hire!
Forget what that busybody had to say. Keep on keeping on!
it will be one for the international newspapers when someone someday comes into my home telling me how i need to live . especially someone 1 / 3 rd my age and life experience .