If you've read the book, what did you think of it? Did it help you? What did you learn from it? I want to help my husband gain a new set of tools for dealing with his depressed dad. My husband has situational depression because my FIL dumps his depression on my husband regularly.
Dh: "When are we going to the beach?"
Wife: "Today"
Dh: synopsis: The many many reasons why we cannot go, omitting that he sleeps the day away every Sunday.
Wife: "Are there anymore reasons why we can't go?"
Dh: no answer
Wife: Today.
End of conversation.
Mind in a mental trick, I come away thinking, Why did he bring it up?
Will the book help me with that? I googled it, interested, $10.98.
The Deborah Tannen book is written by a linguist. Currently I am trying to help my husband develop a new set of skills for dealing with his father, who continues to dump his depression on my husband at every opportunity.
And with the one year anniversary of my MIL's death approaching, I also want to prepare myself with a new set of tools when talking with my FIL, who is severely depressed.