Three or four times people have been called out for spirited arguments my mom and I have at the hospital or nursing home. I would really like to know why the investigator is so stupid that he cannot out that I take good care of my mother. My sister even enlisted the support of a local investigator because she was upset that I reported her for emotional abuse of me. Has anyone else gone through this?
Do not yell. Do not raise your voice. If you feel you cannot control yourself, leave immediately. If your mom is in nursing home, then she is taken care of and you do not need to be there. If the situation deteriorates, leave. Try to keep visits calm. And have witnesses for that, too. Bring a friend.
There was period there when I never went to my mom's home alone. I had taken her car keys away and she was seething. If I went over, which I did every day, to see if she wanted to go shopping or needed anything, then a fight started. So, I stopped going alone. I brought my husband, poor guy, who was retired and is an unusually calm person. This all ended when she went into AL but, even then, when I thought/think the heat is on, I bring old faithful along.
Do what you have to, preserve your own sanity, take a "buffer" with you!!!