After over a year of taking care of my mother 24/7 with little outside help, I cannot do this any longer. My stepdad left the house as a living trust and then to his daughter who lives in Florida. My mom lives with me, has Alzheimer’s and is unable to do anything for herself. She has not been in her old house for a year. I am not able to take care of the property any longer. This past year has taken quite a toll on my physical and mental health. Because of being left as a living trust the state can get a portion of it if her money runs out first. I can’t sell it or sign it over. Am I responsible as POA to care for the house until my mom passes? My stepdad did everything himself so the house is not in great shape. I’m tired of taking care of everything and everyone and I have to consider my own health at this point.
And as far as maintaining the property the funds to do so should come from your moms monies not yours. If you have been paying to maintain it I hope you have receipts so that you can be reimbursed. This is also for homeowners insurance, gas, electric, property taxes and all the other good stuff that comes with owning a house.
- Is the house in the trust, in other words, is the house deeded to the living trust?
- If so, who is the current trustee?
-- I can only GUESS the original trustees were both your stepdad and your mom. If this is so, then your mother should be the trustee.
-- If your mother is trustee, with Alzheimer's she may not be competent to sign any documents. There should be a paragraph in the trust in case of incompetency and how that's handled.
-- If the trustee was only your stepdad, and your stepsister is the successor trustee, it's all on her to control the house, according to the terms of the trust.
- Who has the trustee documents: the original (or copies) Declaration of Trust, all amendments to the trust, and the Schedule A (the document that lists all the property IN the trust)?
- Does the trust document establish a life estate for your mother and what are its conditions?
You stated "Except [the house] has value to my mother if she out lives her savings. If I sign it over to my stepsister I could be responsible for paying ..." If the house is in the living trust and you're NOT the trustee, you have no authority to sign over the house or sell it. The authority for any trust rides with the trustee/successor trustee (or applicable term) and not a POA.
The bottom line is: what do the trust documents state and how the house is deeded. Verifying how the house is deeded is easy, you can look it up online (many municipalities have a city or county website where you can look it up) or you can call them since it's hard for you to leave the house.
Find the trust documents, find out who is the current trustee, with help from your stepsister. She has a vested interest in figuring this out too! This isn't all on you to solve!
From there, contact an attorney (that you're already doing) and get advice for your mother's rights and authority, if she has any.
Taarna had great suggestions to earning income from the house and its benefit to your mother and you. I hope you're able to find a great outcome for yourself, Karin. You deserve peace and taking care of only yourself.
My mother is 102 and until recently she was living in her own home. No Estate. She fell, broke a femor and is now in a nursing home. She will not be returning to her house.
As POA my son is paying all the house expenses, taxes, oil, power etc. We will then sell the house. The money from the house goes to the State and when she has no more than $1600, the state of Connecticut will provide Medicaid and pay for the nursing home. The state also takes her social security and pension.
You, as POA are not obligated to maintain the house, but if you want to sell it, you need to pay the tax , the realtor etc. But USE HER MONEY. You have that complete power.
we felt it worth speaking to an elder lawyer. They can be extremely helpful and save you money and aggravation.
Also, take care of yourself , please.
best wishes
The person who is the trustee, or settlor as it's called, is the person who can and would have to convey the house from the trust to an individual.
You wrote that b/c of "Because of being left as a living trust the state can get a portion of it if her money runs out first". Are you referring to a Medicaid interest, or something else?
My "outlook" comes from knowing a woman who set up in her Will that if she went first, her second husband would be able to live in "her" house until his death. Upon his death, the house reverted back to the children of her first marriage.
Medicaid does not consider a home when concerning paying for care. They look at Moms finances. What she brings in monthly. Money she has been put aside. Insurance policies with cash values. CDs, IRAs, bonds, stocks, shares, anything that can be liquidated. That money can be used to prepay a funeral. Any money she may have needs to be used for her care before Medicaid will pay. If all Mom has is her monthly income and its under the cap, applying should be easy.
What I did was start the Medicaid application in April. Mom moved into a NH May 1. She paid 2 months Privately and Medicaid took over July 1st.
So, stop worrying about the house. Its not considered till after Moms death. At that time ur POA is no longer in effect. The Executor will be responsible for figuring out how the house works. My feeling, Mom is not a legal owner.
You personally are not responsible for the house. Once Mom is in a facility on Medicaid all her money will go to her care. Nothing will go towards the house.
You need to get the daughter involved. As his daughter she maybe able to do things you can't.
Come back and tell us how things work out.
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