My sister claims she has dpoa ! She refuses to give me and my sister a copy .doesnt she have to give me one . She is throwing that piece of paper around and making decision without asking me at all . Do I not have the right to know what she does have??
If you think she is lying, call the county Adult Protective Service. She would have to show it to them.
I would think the same would apply to anyone you expect to take your POA seriously. What reason does your sister give for not showing you a copy?
Otherwise, if your sister doesn't have a POA, she wouldn't be able to make any financial or medical decisions for your parent(s)... a bank or doctor/hospital would ask for a copy of said document before they can proceed.
You could go to an attorney and have them draft a "demand" letter, asking sister to provide you with a copy, but I don't think she ever has to show you the original. Or you could just write a "demand" letter yourself and send it certified return receipt. If she doesn't comply, then go to APS with your concerns, and show them how she would not provide a copy, or whatever the case may be. She may just be too busy caring for your mom to be concerned with what she perceives as unimportant requests.
So my first question is, how sure are you that mother is not in a rehab unit, as you were told?
Even if Sis does have a legitimate DPOA, that does not give her the authority to decide where mother must live. Does she also claim to have Medical POA (healthcare proxy)? Is your mother of sound mind? Does she want this sister to make her decisions?
Are you visiting your mother regularly where she is?
Might mother be eligible for hospice?