My three siblings were never involved with our mother despite all of them living within ten minutes of her. I have always been the one to care for my mother despite living an hour away. Now that my mother has a terminal illness, their greed is showing and they took my mother to their attorney and made significant changes again without my input. I'm concerned about her decision making.
So next question: what would you like to try to do, and are you sure it's going to be worth it?
Your mother was abusive to you throughout your childhood, but you believe that it took lies from your siblings to turn her against you?
She appointed you POA for her healthcare, then revoked that and, presumably, appointed one or more of your siblings instead? Why?
I am sincerely sorry that you're having to go through this. Your troubles are very real, and very sad to read about; and if your mother is so seriously ill you have little time in hand to accomplish anything with her. What would most help to give you some peace of mind before her passing, and therefore the best chance of recovery afterwards?
Let APS handle the rest of this. Focus on your own health for now.
I wasn't expecting that answer.
Ok, I'll bite. Of all your mother's many potential unfulfilled dreams and longings, why would you pick on that one? When you mentioned your fears that she was being neglected, I can't imagine you meant: neglected, in that your siblings won't take her to Italy.
I think Pam is correct in suspecting, perhaps, that it is you who needs a bit more care and attention from yourself as a first step. With your early history, your current turbulent feelings, your mother's mental health issues and the fact that her passing can't be far away, you must be being shaken to pieces. Do you have anyone to lean on? - spouse, partner, counsellor, doctor?